Sunday, January 30, 2011
Week 5: The Rachel Ray Show
Thank goodness the office was closed--and yes... I was responsible and checked to see if there were any pending or urgent issues to be taken care of.
My daily journey to the workplace includes a cameo appearance in front of Center 44 where The Rachel Ray show is hosted. Smiling faces are common along the east side of 44th street and can be agitating as attendees take up the entire sidewalk oblivious to those with further destinations. Excitement can get the best of us--even I was pushed by someone attempting to make their way through the crowd of anxious hooky players, (Cough, Cough, Ehem @#*&%) excuse me would've sufficed. Nevertheless I was readily awaiting for my chance at something fun and free to do. After standing in the cold for approximately one hour, the show reached maximum capacity for the 1:15 PM taping. C'est la vie--- we were wait-listed for the 3:30 show and so we had a lovely day-- breaking bread and sharing libations in the meantime.
Promptly-- we redeemed our tickets and then shuffled through a corridor suitable for an ice queen. Our excitement still full throttle---even being herded into a room as cattle thereafter, excited to participate in the show until the hour of 5:00 rolled around and we're still standing around---now faded, jaded, hot, frustrated--- in need of fresh air and slightly claustrophobic. OK, I suppose things happen--- extreme patience was on my team...but even that was wearing thin. The coolest part about her show was hopping on a set that rotated like a lazy susan where we would go from watching her make jalapeƱo waffles, brownies and turkey sliders--and then made the shift from "tater tots to ta tas" where host of What Not to Wear's Clinton Kelly gave us tips and tricks on how to avoid double boob---and further to defy gravity.
After making us wait in a cramped room---a bunch of women and four or five men at that-- our consolation prize was a free ticket to come back to the show and be bumped to the front of the line. Ha- after getting two granola bars and watching a few vignettes--- I think I will keep my vacation day and/or spend my next snow day in bed... that's just as fun (if not more) and free (:
Monday, January 24, 2011
Week 4: Press Esc Key on this Endless Loop
In the early part of 2010, a friend announced her engagement and subsequently moved to the other side of the world. By this time I had already been planning my escape, applying to jobs, even participated in a few interviews, made it to the second round and declined one. Thinking of the exciting adventure that was to come in November, I realized --the date of the wedding was just two weeks shy of my prospective last day in the office. The closer it came, the more terrified I grew at the thought of renewing---it was against every fiber of my being...but I did and I suppose the monetary compensation softened the blow. Afterall, these are the downfalls of adulthood...right? The responsibility of bills and whatever else have you--- Here we are a month and a half later and of course every day I am thankful to have a job---so really I should shut my mouth--but--- I won't because I want something new ---and that is not a newsflash to anyone.
In June, I completed a Master's Degree---and similarly to when I finished my Bachelor's, I was sitting on top of the world---by September, I received an email from a good friend of mine---supporting my emphatic proclamation to leave in November and to stick to my guns by securing a new position. Here is an excerpt of what he had to say:
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Week 3: The Wealth of a Network
six degrees of separation has become much smaller |
"I don't know what's wrong with you..." a friend once exclaimed-- "you've got all of the resources, and yet you're stuck in this rut, I just don't understand it."
However not so nice that may come across, this friend wasn't wrong. I've been a true goat in thinking that I was going to do all of this by myself- I've been too shy to ask for letters of recommendation- even too shy to ask the people that I know for advice--until recently.
Last night while having a glass of wine with my roommate, I grew a little backbone and started to browse through the linkedin network suggestions. Low and behold I added someone who I thought went to high school with my sister and that I saw this summer at my cousin's engagement party. I was completely wrong, but without apology, if I were in design, I would've hit the jackpot and he is a second connection--meaning that I could actually stumble upon him at a real live social event--the odds of that are not as slim as I might've imagined. Six degrees of separation is now something like three.
Why do we become afraid to extend our networks? Fearful of seeming too pretentious, or fearful of rejection? I mean come on--- admittedly the current position I hold has done some damage to my level of confidence in the professional realm, but why in the world should I be that timid? I have been a part of numerous leadership trainings since the fourth grade and even in the student senate in kindergarten--- pfft. Elected for task forces and policy groups...who the hell is anyone in the organization where I work to tell me what I have to offer or don't based on a grade classification.
Stumbling upon this new contact and his willingness to accept me --even on the merit of the organization I work for means a lot to me, because it made me realize I have nothing to fear but fear itself. On top of that, I have an extensive---extensive group of successful people in my direct network that would actually be happy to support me in any future endeavor as long as I reached out and shared my plan. So why not? The most debilitating portion of my journey has been the inability to be specific with my professional goals and desires.
Recently, while reading a book on women and finance, an assignment was given to write down all desires, everyday for two weeks straight-- I haven't followed through with this, because tapping into that part of me is something I've been avoiding and I can no longer stand it. The other day I submitted an application to a fellows program and I, for the life of me...couldn't talk about what I wanted without freezing. I promise, my blood pressure even went up, which affected my entire ability to produce. How can this be--- staring at the barrels of two guns... in the middle of a crossroads and each side brings with it an overwhelming sense of anxiety. Its my life and I can do as I please and yet won't name it to all of the people that could make it happen? Industry upon industry is laying in front of my doorstep, an orphaned bundle of joy... I suppose I can understand the saying-- "the smart one has got the brains...the dumb one has got the balls..." At least I'm not dumb, but what's that got to do with anything if I won't utilize my network and market my full potential.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Week 2: Building momentum through restoration
At 13, and part of a youth group facilitated by my mother, I went to Old Bethpage Village Restoration, which "recreates the atmosphere of a pre-Civil War Long Island Village, illustrating agricultural, domestic and commercial activities through the actual practice of crafts and skills." What an interesting place...it was filled with livestock and artifacts and historical homes with historical furniture-- I am sure that as an adult I could appreciate it even more, but nevertheless as a child, I found it enjoyable. It was there, I purchased my very first journal. Large, blue, bound, a hard cover and decorated with shells-- it was mine.
Pouring emotions onto the pages, as an adolescent I can remember losing myself in thought--even mentally vomited 16 pages in one sitting... I was angry that day. I haven't had the heart to go back and read that specific text just yet, mostly because I'm still working on the little notes that I had to write to my third grade teacher Mrs. M in our progress book... she made my life miserable with those damn multiplication tables. Further she called me "chatterbox," because talking to Kevin P. who was assigned to the seat next to mine was way more interesting then her method of teaching-not to mention he ended up being my boyfriend in fifth grade all the way to the sixth grade (that's a big deal in the pre-teen years). The demise of our fifth grade infatuation was my first lesson in accepting bad advice and never to let a "friend's" opinion dictate your romantic future...this of course, is a completely different story.
After going through previous written works, I realized that I developed the habit of only resorting to writing when searching for that same release, rather than creating the time to have a moment to do something that I love. I reemphasize that I am excited about this 52 week challenge to permit this time. I believe that it will be uplifting and inspiring because whether or not you want to read it...I've got something to say. In addition, I have planned to take at least one writing course in this new year, the very same one I've been putting off for some time now, acceptable since I was in graduate school. Let's consider this the flywheel concept, building momentum to take necessary steps forward thereby accumulating visible results. Feel free to participate and monitor and share thoughts on whether I have grown or fallen off track throughout the course of 2011. This challenge will encourage further reading and investigation, a bit of research...creativity. Any topics you wish to share are welcome... Challenge me, I dare you. My goal is to be inspired by a given topic, not personal strife.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Week 1: Be fly in July Weight Watchers Challenge
Taking heed to these suggestions, I created a short term goal to lose as much weight as I could before my birthday and low and behold I shed 13 lbs in a little less than one month's time. YIPPEEEEEE :) By February, I shed 20 lbs and by April, I could fit into a pair of size 6 pants! I was just too cute for words. Of course losing weight at this speed is unhealthy and I knew exactly what I was doing... ATKINS. By June, the end of school was rearing its ugly head along with some unwanted visitors in my life and I hopped off the band wagon and started stuffing cupcakes down my throat, a food I hadn't particularly cared for in the past. Why now?
Admittedly, I didn't have the most healthy menu while on the fad diet, consuming crab legs with garlic and butter every other day, supplemented by Bubba Burgers for lunch and dinner--and lets not forget breakfast, the most important meal of the day... an egg and cheese omelet with deep fried bacon. NO wonder I was so successful on Atkins... I was pigging out more than ever before! It was absolutely a m a z i n g. When dining out I could still consume vodka and soda which wasn't too far off from my preferred drink--vodka tonic. The perfect diet! I could go on living life the way I was accustomed to and all I had to do was pee on a stick to measure the ketones in my body. Which only after the fact, I learned that ketones were really bad. In July, the weight gain was a little obvious when a friend came to visit from Miami and I was feeling a little bigger than I had the month prior and over the course of the next two months, it all came back, I gained 20 lbs. Nevertheless, I continue to love myself unconditionally--confident and happy.
The Year 2011 brings with it my sister's wedding to be held in one of the Dominican Republic's most luxurious resorts--- how exciting! There are a few of us preparing for the big day that want to look our absolute best because the woman we love is going to proclaim vows to the one she loves on the beach...barefoot. Today, I contacted the bride and another member of the wedding party to start a small support group for one another. My sister mentioned a little while back that she planned to use the Weight Watchers point system in order to shed a few lbs and while walking to work this morning, I decided to do the same. It got me thinking that all of the women that are going to the wedding could hop on board this wonderful opportunity to bond together and have a shared celebration. Thus creating the Be Fly in July Weight Watchers challenge... and umm- have you seen Jennifer Hudson lately? That is motivation enough. I am so happy for her. I hope that this challenge will come to fruition and I genuinely believe it will bring us girls together in La Republica Dominicana, not to mention bring our swag to a whole new level as the bridal party et al. So...why not? I'm for it.
Pledge of Allegiance
Pledgehammer.com allows you to create any pledge of your choice and if I do not complete 52 works of writing, in which I aiming for a blog format, then I will have to cough up $75.00 USD to one of the following humanitarian agencies: ActionAid, PDSA - for pets in need of vets, Torture Care, The World Land Trust, SOS Children's Village in Keila, Estonia – so if I didn’t meet this goal at least it wasn’t a complete bust and thank you to the person who recommended this site.
Entering into a new year of life is the onset of continuing goals and challenges to meet before being graced with another year on this planet… This wouldn’t have to be considered a resolution—just life enhancement. We’ll see if I can make it to blogging at least two times per week in the year 2012, that is-- if the Mayan calendar is incorrect and I will be able to do so.
We shall see.
Wish me luck!