I guess some folks are meant to be around- despite what we think.... Its funny, even after I thought I had shut the door to former friends and completely adamant about doing so.. they manage to sneak their way back in.. DESPITE the mutual proclamation to NEVER EVER speak again...
It's like a breath of fresh air under a given circumstance that one is able to fall back into the lap of another.. of course the theory here- is everything happens for a reason-and timing is everything. Let's put some interesting thoughts on the table... Certainly-the amount of time that you know someone should not gauge the type of friendship you share-however, in this instance- even after everything is said and done... the amount of time spent building with one another is the defining factor. With all the new friends that come our way... ¿¿¿ who do you call-when what you have to talk about-is just too uncomfortable for any "new" friend to understand.. or completely accept for that matter???
Back in the day when I was young I'm not a kid anymore... Girlscout troop 484- always forced us to sing this song... "Make new friends, but keep the old..one is silver and the other's gold..." (yes I was a girlscout.. and damn proud..sheeeeit.. those cookies are the B O M B! )
Maybe I was just too young to understand the concept of GOLD-after high school and the first two years of college. Coming home was like entering into a completely new dimension. Everything that I had ever known just seemed so much smaller - and the friends I had once held close-seemed much f u r t h e r away. Our common bond faded and our thought processing unit computed unfamiliar equations.
Recent and unfortunate encounters have provided the opportunity to enter into a blast from the past...and sadly to report.. I was less than impressed with some of what I saw with our post grad age group. I was completely secure with me and what I had accomplished at this event. That was a disspointing surprise... Oxymoron? No... I had expected for all of us to stand on the same plateau. It wasn't professional achievement though that dissapointed me... It was the level of personal growth that was lacking. Seven whole years after high school, and certain folks weren't even able to shed a smile... who really holds on to negativity for that long?
RELINQUISH...practicing what I preach... An unrelated rekindle of friendship-happened seemingly out of the blue... a former friend anew, contacted me with the very same issue posed at the beginning of this blog... "Andrea, I couldn't think of anyone else to talk to that would understand what I'm going through..." Honored and understanding, I agreeably met with my counterpart for discussion at a mutual destin
ation. (Starbucks...) Four hours later, the saline was flowing- it was the most natural and nothing conversation- and we were still rapping about... everything that would could think of.. While I admit, I went with no hope or intention-or even desire (sorry girl, if you're reading this..lol) of trying to maintain this friendship.. but her timing... was just impeccable... We both exhaled only to inhale a breath of fresh air... GOLD friends never tarnish... and our friendship was rekindled.
Despite our differences, the ones we understand a little clearer-we recognize that our friendship will never be the same.. and THANK GOD.. because it wasn't healthy. Shining sun beams burn the clouds away... and our purpose of checks and balances in each other's lives seem a lot less foggy... I guess some folks are meant to be around despite what we may think.
Welcome back girl! Really good to see you...
